Kenne, was dich schwach macht. Konzentriere dich auf das, was dich stark macht!
Die "Gesprächstherapie nach Rogers" ist bei vielen Seelsorgen und auch Therapeuten ein gern zitiertes Qualitätsmerkmal, das als Beschreibung der eigenen Herangehensweise gelten soll.
Dabei wird jedoch vergessen, dass diese Therapie nur ein (!) Werkzeug aus einem großen Koffer verschiedenster Werkzeuge ist.
Wer nur diese Form der Gesprächsführung wählt, arbeitet nicht im Sinne der Ratsuchenden, da in vielen Situationen eine andere Methoden geeigneter und zielführender ist.
Wer also wirklich im Sinne der Klienten arbeiten will, sollte sich tunlichst auch andere Methoden aneignen!
Criticism of Rogers
"Client-centered therapy has its critics — for the vagueness of its principles, its antipathy to diagnosis, and its emphasis on the client's self-evaluation as the way to judge the outcome of therapy. Client-centered therapy may work less well with people who find it difficult to talk about themselves or have a mental illness that distorts their perceptions of reality, says the Harvard Mental Health Letter."
"There are many criticisms of Rogers. He is the father of the language sometimes called psychobabble. DeMott (1979) identifies the following phrases, traceable to Rogers: "going with the flow," "getting in touch with my feelings," "working at my relationship," "being open to experience."
Some people find such language unbearably trite, but it was not trite when Rogers came up with it. In 1946, nobody but Rogers was saying "go with the flow." Rogers was being radical and different by urging people to relax their facades and find their true selves.
A more serious criticism is that Rogers carried nondirection to an extreme. He wrote once that "nobody can teach anybody anything." Rogers thought the relationship that worked in therapy was a model for all social relationships between humans.
For example, in the college classroom, a Rogerian teacher would let students invent the content of the course. Discussions in such a class were punctuated by long, awkward silences.
Rogers said that was to be expected. Ultimately students would evolve a valuable course. To others, such a course was a waste of time and a reductio ad absurdum (reduction to absurdity) of Rogerian theory. An approach good for counseling seemed like a fish out of water in the classroom.
A third criticism of Rogers is that he claimed Rogerian methods can be applied to each and every problem. There is no evidence that biological problems like schizophrenia or autism respond well to the Rogerian approach.
Rogers also noted that certain clients, such as those who entered therapy expecting practical advice, were likely to become disillusioned by nondirective therapy and drop out quickly. John Gray's pop psychology bestseller, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (1992) was based on this insight among others.
Gray argued, following gender stereotypes, that women typically wanted to "vent" to somebody who was understanding and nurturing. Men, he said, were more likely to seek straightforward advice.
There are many exceptions to this formulation, but Gray's book was a bestseller partly because such differences do exist (perhaps less correlated with gender than he implied). Some people want a nondirective approach, others want active problem-solving from a therapist.
Finally, Rogerian therapy is sometimes reduced to the sterile technique of "echoing" what a client says. Rogers recommended that a Rogerian therapist repeat or paraphrase a client's thoughts, in order to insure comprehension was taking place.
That is actually a valuable technique, but it can be silly if it is done too often or too automatically. It lends itself to parody, as in the computer program ELIZA developed by Joseph Weizenbaum of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.
Eliza was written to satirize Rogerian counseling by echoing statements back to the user. If you typed in, "I am worried about my grades": ELIZA would reply with something like, "Why are you worried about your grades?"
Obviously the program does not understand what you are typing in; it just echoes part of it back as a question. A therapist who really did this would come across like an uncaring machine rather than an empathetic listener.
DeMott, B. (1979, January). Mr. Rogers neighborhood. Psychology Today. Pp. 90,94,95."
'Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.'
~ Brené Brown
Ab wann ist eine psychische Erkrankung auch wirklich eine Erkrankung? Ohne Menschen, die mehr Angst als andere hatten, hätte sich die Menschheit nicht in der bekannten Form entwickeln können. Viele Erfindungen wären wohl nicht gemacht worden. Ähnliches gilt für viele andere "Störungen" oder "Krankheiten". Wenn sich diese zu einer erheblichen psychischen und/oder körperlichen Belastung oder gar Gefährdung für einen selbst oder andere entwickeln, ist eine Therapie nachvollziehbar - aber sonst?
Vielleicht müssen wir Menschen, die anders sind, denken und handeln, mit anderen Augen sehen - nicht als Krankheit, sondern als Chance. Oder gar Geschenk.